IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective

I'm Not Perfect, Now What?

April 07, 2022 Ben Pugh Episode 95
IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective
I'm Not Perfect, Now What?
Show Notes

Imperfection Is Part of Being Human

One of the things that I see all the time with both my teen clients and my parent clients is frustration about not being "better."

If you're like many of my clients, you have been frustrated with yourself for not being "better."

Maybe you yelled at your teen, and you wish you could go back in time and unsay some of the things you said. 

Maybe you didn't handle a situation with your spouse exactly how you wanted to, or maybe you made a mistake and you're having to live with the consequences. 

WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES!

No one is perfect. That is part of being human. 

Being imperfect is part of being a parent. 

So now what?

Your Best IS Good Enough!

I want to help you trust that your best IS good enough. 

In fact, it's better than good enough. It's all that's possible, ever. 

And, it's PERFECT!

That's right, your imperfect parenting is PERFECT for what you and your child need. 

So, carry on! Keep doing your best! 

Own it! Pat yourself on the back for a job well done and continue on!

I'm Not Perfect, So Now What?

Okay, so we've established that being human means that you're not going to be perfect. 

So, now what?

Below, I'm going to share 3 simple things to do when you find yourself being less than "perfect."

#1 Acceptance, Gratitude, and Love

My childhood wasn't "perfect", but it was EXACTLY what I needed. 

I've made TONS of mistakes in my life, but it turns out those mistakes were EXACTLY what I needed to become me.

In fact, without the exact childhood that I had or all of my mistakes, I wouldn't be who I am today. 

If you're like me, you wouldn't be who you are today without the exact childhood that you had. 

There's no going back and changing or "fixing" your childhood or undoing your mistakes. 

So, you might as well accept it and be grateful for how it's helped you become the parent you are today. 

 It can be hard to accept our imperfections and mistakes. 

It can be even harder to be grateful for our imperfections and mistakes.

But I want to invite you to connect with yourself Right Where You Are! Imperfections and all. 

As you develop the skill of accepting yourself as you are, it will be easier to show yourself some gratitude. With gratitude for yourself, it will be easier to show yourself love and kindness. 

You have always done your best. You are still doing your best! 

And, that's perfect!

#2 Improve Your Best 

One of the things that I've noticed as a football coach is that your best at the beginning of the season looks a lot different than your best at the end of the season. 

After one season of football, I've seen kids grow physically, mentally, and emotionally, and I've seen kids grow in their skills and abilities. 

You can do the same thing!

Your best today won't look like your best in a year from now, especially after listening to the podcast, joining the membership, and practicing all of these amazing skills. 

Don't compare yourself to others and don't compare yourself with this mythical "perfect" version of you. 

Just give your best today and continue the work of improving your best. 

#3 Enjoy the Process!

This one is very important, and it's one that lots of parents forget. 

Enjoy the process. 

There's nothing wrong with starting right where you are right now. It's okay that it might take you some time. 

Embrace the process and find ways to enjoy it. 

In my experience as a football coach, the best football players are the ones who enjoy the process of working to be their best. 

On the other hand, the players who constan