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Let Go of Holiday Chaos by Building Better Traditions

The holidays can feel busy, loud, and stressful — especially when you’re parenting teens. Many parents try to fix this by setting big goals or New Year’s resolutions, but those don’t usually last.In this episode, Ben Pugh shares a better...

December 18, 2025 • Episode 289 • 27:40

Your Teen Can Hate You… and You Can Still Have a Great Relationship

Your teen might hate you sometimes… and you can still have a great relationship with them.Most parents think their relationship with their teen is something they both share. But that’s not how it works. You have your own relati...

December 10, 2025 • Episode 288 • 26:33

The Parenting Update You Didn’t Know You Needed — Until Now

Your teen’s attitude, your frustration, and the same old fights aren’t the real problem — your programming is. In this episode, Ben and Cortni break down why parents get stuck repeating the same patterns even when they’re trying to “do...

December 04, 2025 • Episode 287 • 44:25

The Gratitude Shift That Can Save Your Thanksgiving

The Gratitude Shift That Can Save Your ThanksgivingThanksgiving is amazing… until it’s not. Family drama. Stress. That one uncle. The comments you wish you didn’t hear. But what if ONE mindset shift could help yo...

November 27, 2025 • Episode 286 • 18:43

How to Be the Parent Your Teen Actually Learns From

Identity is your hidden superpower as a parent.In this episode, Ben shares a powerful story from the football field about getting out of the victim mindset, redefining his identity, and modeling the exact behavior he wanted to see in his...

November 20, 2025 • Episode 285 • 24:29

Fan Mail

I thought I'd really learned & implemented the T chart of control. After listening to this last podcast, I can see I have more work to do. Too much energy is going into my 18 yr old. I feel like I can let natural consequences happen, but then I catastrophize and still intervene. I justify it because the decision my adult child makes still affects me because they live at home. ex: I don't wake them for work & they get fired, loose the privilege of the car ( because they don't have $ for gas/ insurance), go into a deep depression, and possibly start using drugs again. That is what happens in my brain everyday when I know they should be leaving for work. This has been the cycle and it is too much to deal with again so I try to stop it from happening. The longer they can go with a steady job and no drugs they better it is for everyone.

Temecula, California