IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective

Connection Based Parenting with Crystal Haitsma

May 05, 2022 Ben Pugh Episode 99
IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective
Connection Based Parenting with Crystal Haitsma
Show Notes

What is Neurocontrast and Neurodivergent?

Neurodivergent is the opposite of neurotypical, often adhd, odd, dyslexia a diagnosis of some type. 

Neurocontrast is a little more inclusive. Everyone's brain is different. 

Learning is Learning, and Your Teen IS Learning

Everyone's brain develops differently. We learn at different speeds. We learn different things at different times. 

Your teen is learning, whether you see it or not.

Crystal lets her kids learn to read when they are ready and interested. 

Development happens at different stages. Let your teens learn when they are ready.

The human brain can't help but learn and grow! And it learns what it sees as the priority first.

Learning happens naturally. You don't have to make it happen.

It's Not "Misbehavior" Kids are Always Doing Their Best

When we can see that our kids are doing their best, it changes how we parent. 

When we can show our kids that they are learning, and they are doing their best, and that is good enough. 

Your teen's behavior is just communication. What are they trying to tell you? What's the root cause?

Build a Connection

When you have a connection with your teen, you can model the behavior that you want your teen to learn.

Shift your focus from what you can't control, and focus on what you can control, your relationship with your teen.

Think of your favorite teacher. The reason you liked them is because you had a relationship with them.

This is what your teen is looking for. 

Believe it or not, you teen want's you to connect with them.

Connect with your teen as they are rather than trying to connect as you want them to be.