Latest Episodes

Is Your Teen Out of Control? There’s Still Hope

Do you feel like your teen is out of control? Are they angry, acting out, or even kicked out of school?In this episode, I answer a message from a listener named Jodi. She’s a therapist who is worried about her niece’s 13-year-old son. He...

May 15, 2025 • Episode 258 • 44:43

Forget Flowers—This Is the Gift Moms Really Need

This special Mother’s Day episode is all about giving yourself a gift that matters: self-love. Many moms feel guilty and think they’re not doing enough. But what if the best gift this year is kindness to yourself?

May 08, 2025 • Episode 257 • 27:56

Why We’re Addicted to Being Anxious

Why are we so addicted to being anxious? In this episode, Ben and Cortni dive deep into how anxiety has become a crutch for so many of us. They talk about why we let worry take over our lives and how to stop it from controlling us.You’ll...

May 01, 2025 • Episode 256 • 25:55

Your Teen Doesn’t Actually Hate You

Does it feel like your teen wants nothing to do with you? The truth is, they don’t hate you—they actually want to connect with you, even if they don’t show it! In this episode, we dive into why teens act distant, how parents can misread their b...

April 24, 2025 • Episode 255 • 23:47

Secrets To Thriving With Independent Teens

Do you have a teen who wants to do things their own way? You’re not alone! In this episode, Ben and Cortni talk about what to do when your teen becomes more independent and starts making choices you don’t always agree with.You’ll learn:<...

April 17, 2025 • Episode 254 • 29:20

Fan Mail

I thought I'd really learned & implemented the T chart of control. After listening to this last podcast, I can see I have more work to do. Too much energy is going into my 18 yr old. I feel like I can let natural consequences happen, but then I catastrophize and still intervene. I justify it because the decision my adult child makes still affects me because they live at home. ex: I don't wake them for work & they get fired, loose the privilege of the car ( because they don't have $ for gas/ insurance), go into a deep depression, and possibly start using drugs again. That is what happens in my brain everyday when I know they should be leaving for work. This has been the cycle and it is too much to deal with again so I try to stop it from happening. The longer they can go with a steady job and no drugs they better it is for everyone.

Temecula, California